Control Tower

From the Mailbag

by Mistress Matisse

I want desperte to be your slave. Please! I know I am a born slave and I would lick your feet, bow and worship you ever day, kiss your whip. I am a handsome man, funny, attractive and smart man. The woman like you is a Superior, I am born to serve you every time, you are my new religion, you are my only Goddess, please let me worship you devine woman!!!

Sincerely,

X

P.S. if you don’t wish to have any more slave. then teach me how to be a dom. Please

Wow, this level of sincerity and commitment in a potential submissive really makes an impression on a girl. But if I’m your Goddess, I think you have excommunicated yourself with that postscript.

Good afternoon, Mistress!

I am looking for a Mistress in the Seattle area that would do a penectomy or possibly even a nullification. Would you be into this, and if not could you point me in the correct direction? Any assistance is appreciated and I thank you. Have a nice day

Translation: This cheerful gent is asking me to perform surgery on him to remove his penis, and possibly his balls as well. He seems to have overlooked the tiny matter of my not having gone to medical school. However, since this is almost certainly just a fantasy that will never really be acted out, that’s less crucial than you might think.

I had not heard of this particular fetish before I became a professional dominatrix, because it’s not a large subset of the BDSM community. But there does seem to be a small population of men who find the fantasy of being castrated a sexual turn-on. It’s always felt like a bit of a contradiction in terms to me, but I suppose it’s the “enforced chastity” idea taken to an extreme.

But while I can intellectually grasp it, I don’t find it erotic, and so I have always declined to do fantasy role-plays with this theme. When I did a Google search, however, I did run across a Web page on the subject that started off with what must be the ultimate you-ain’t-just-whistling-Dixie disclaimer: “Castration is not right for everyone.” Oh, really? Gee, thanks for letting us know that.

Dear Mistress Matisse, I read your column and your blog all the time and I would like to offer you my services for your next party. I am a very clean and respectful TV and I would like to orally service your guests, male or female, as a “party favor.” I ask for nothing in return, just the chance to please you and your friends.

I get a lot of e-mails like this, and you know, offering guests in my house the sexual services of a stranger is just not something I could imagine doing. It’s definitely not something I can remember being offered by any hostess of a BDSM party I’ve ever attended. I think this person believes that an SM gathering would be just like a swingers’ party, only with whips and restraints, and that’s simply not true. We’re an uptight bunch in our way, and there’s not a lot of out-and-out sex at public play parties, or even large private ones, especially between strangers.

Dear Mistress Matisse, I am writing you in hopes of an honest answer on the issue of a sub’s safety and if there is a standard in the Master/Slave community regarding “prostituting under your Master’s orders?” I would like to know if lots of Masters ask their slaves to turn tricks on the weekends? Do most Masters take any type of money from their slaves? Would not doing this make me not a true slave? I know the answer is yes. How should a slave deal with this?

No, no, no and no. The answer is no. Run, don’t walk, away from this man—that’s what a real slave should do. Pronto.

But ladies—and guys, too—you shouldn’t have to ask me about this kind of shit. Being a slave does not mean your dominant gets to force you to do things that are antithetical to your nature or in conflict with your personal morality. Consult your gut. Does it feel wrong to you? Yes? Then you probably shouldn’t do it. And if anyone tells you that a “real slave” submerges their ethics and boundaries to their Masters, kick that asshole to the curb.

Hi mistress, i like to be your slave and lick your boot, so i need an appointment with lowest price

Sincerely…

Well, I’ve got a special deal going today on a guy who wants to be a dom…